
Chicago, at the edge of winter. I haven't been back to the city in a long while, almost four years, and it's surprising to see how easily memory takes charge when you move from one place to another in a place you lived in and left such a long time ago. I did my graduate studies here, at
Northwestern University in the suburban town of Evanston, just north of the city; lived in Chicago for eight years and essentially negotiated my immigration experience in this region, having come directly to Chicago from Nigeria for graduate studies. Graduate school was one long dark night of the soul and even now, walking through the Evanston campus of NU triggers very strong memories.
There is something you hear often in the West about someone being "a self-made man". Only a very juvenile culture can come up with such an inane statement, since it is very clear to anyone who gives it even a smidgen of thought, that no one can be a self-made man or woman. We are all made by the grace of our life's chances and the kindness of strangers. Mine took the form of several people who gave freely of time, resources and experiences to guide me through the challenge of interacting with a foreign and sometime very difficult cultural environment. America of 1993 is not the same America that elected Barack Obama president last week: racism was more overt, and it came full force to me when a friend cautioned me against straying into Wilmette or Kenilworth. The police in these cities, he said, don't take too kindly to seeing black people in those areas. I stayed out of such places and in time, my horizons shrank to a few blocks: wake up, trek ten blocks to campus (often without breakfast—low cash flow was a constant fact), study all day, return to my apartment at night and repeat the same process next day and the next. For one living such a bare life already, winter cuts you off completely from contact with most people. Sustained solitary existence itself can darken your head and then, you really have something to worry about. I painted, watched the Simpsons (Go Homer!!!) and plodded on.
And that’s where the people came in: I met many wonderful people who helped me make it through these tough times. In my first year, a homeless man who sold
Streetwise newspapers on the corner of Church Street and Sherman Avenue rescued me from a Police Officer I was exchanging harsh words with after he tried to run me down in his patrol car. The policeman denied trying to run me down and was already threatening to arrest me when this homeless man, an African American, intervened. He did the most embarrassing shucking and jiving but got the police officer to let me go. Afterwards, he lectured me in very stern tones about how a black person should act when a policeman takes an interest in you for whatever reason: don’t make any aggressive moves, don’t talk back and for %$*@ sake, don’t start arguing or raising your voice. It was clear that if he hadn’t intervened, I would have been arrested all because a renegade policeman with dubious motives tried to run me off the street. I saw that Vendor many times during the next few years and always gave him some money. In 2003, long after I had already completed my graduate education and moved on to my current job, I returned to Evanston and found my friend still homeless, still selling newspapers to raise a few dollars. And though I was very glad to see him, it broke my heart to see him still that way. He was very glad to see me though, and very happy to see I was doing well. We spent some time talking: I gave him all the money I had on me, and left. And even then, as he’d done in all the time we’d known each other, he still refused to tell me his name.
And there were the Reinheimers, who essentially adopted me as their son and supported my graduate education in every manner possible. Martin and Lucy Reinheimer bought me my first laptop computer, and in 1999, Martin provided me with a large house on Grand Avenue, just off River West, rent-free for one year. I wrote my dissertation in that house and spent many days in their house in the north suburbs: they are the kindest people I have ever known and I made this my visit to Chicago specifically to see them again. Martin is a WWII veteran and getting quite old. Martin and Lucy gave freely of their time and resources to support a very wide range of foreign graduate students, creating in the process a mini-United Nations of surrogate children who now live all over the globe and remember them as fondly as I do. Martin worked as an architect for several decades and built one skyscraper and many buildings in the city. During my stay in Berlin last year, I attended an art exhibition and encountered a display of photographs of prominent buildings photographed in many parts of the world. I pointed the photographer’s attention to one of his photographs, a striking multistory building lit up like a beacon: “you took this picture in Chicago” I said, “on Lake Shore Drive”. He was puzzled and asked me how I knew. The building was designed and built by Martin Reinheimer. I remembered him driving me through the city to show me all the buildings he designed over the years he worked as an architect.
Many other people on three continents helped me and I remember them fondly too, and because of them, I insist that people are made by other people, made also the chances afforded each one by virtue of fortuitous life conditions, but also by the vagaries of fate. Things could have gone horribly wrong for me on many occasions: I am grateful they didn’t. I have returned in part to muse on all those experiences, and in remembering that time, to proffer gratitude for my survival. And to see the City again: I will always think of it more fondly than anywhere else. You see, Chicago is also my hometown and I grew up here.
Image:
Leopard Skinned House in Roger’s Park, Chicago, November 14, 2008.